Congratulations, you’ve landed the perfect sugar daddy! Your head is in the clouds, daydreaming about the luxurious lifestyle that awaits you — maybe weekends at The Datai in Langkawi or shopping sprees at Pavilion KL. Whether it’s your first arrangement or you’re a seasoned sugar baby, there are some universal mistakes that can potentially crash and burn your sugar baby bliss. To maintain a successful sugar relationship in Malaysia, be sure to take note of these Sugar Dating Don’ts!
The No Show
DON’T make a habit of flaking on dates. If you must cancel, be polite and give your sugar daddy at least 24 hours’ notice. If you’ve made grander plans, such as a weekend getaway to Penang or a holiday in Bali, give him sufficient time to cancel or change travel plans. Sugar daddies in Malaysia value their time and money — especially if they have business to run or are public figures. Too many cancellations can give the impression that you are not serious about the relationship. If your schedules are really clashing, try tweaking the terms of your arrangement and evaluate your level of commitment.
Resist the Urge to Overspend
DON’T overspend! Let’s say, for instance, your sugar daddy provides you with a supplementary card and asks that you limit your spending to RM7,000 per month. While it is tempting to swipe until your fingers fall off at Suria KLCC or during a Sephora haul, you must resist the urge to overspend. Your sugar daddy may forgive the occasional overage, but repeatedly racking up bills beyond your agreed budget is just disrespectful. I once grossly exceeded my credit card limit and my sugar daddy threatened to report the card stolen. Unless you’re willing to trade in your Givenchy for an orange lock-up outfit, just don’t do it.
Cut Away the Vices
DON’T indulge in drugs and alcohol. Sugar daddies have worked hard for their money and don’t appreciate watching it disappear up your nose or at every bar in Changkat. If you don’t already dabble in drugs, this shouldn’t be too much of a problem. However, if you have a soft spot for substances, an influx of cash can be very dangerous. I once saw a fellow sugar baby abandoned during a trip to Tioman Island for partying too hard with strangers she just met. Lesson learned!
Be Sincere
DON’T juggle multiple sugar relationships. It may seem like a good strategy to collect as many sugar daddies as possible to maximise your monthly allowance. This is a mistake! You may end up stretching yourself too thin and failing to keep your end of any of the arrangements (see number 1). Depending on the seriousness of the arrangement, a Malaysian sugar daddy may be seriously offended to find out he’s not the only one footing your bill at SK-II counters.
Discretion is Key to Sugar Relationships
DON’T sacrifice discretion at any time. In Malaysia, where society can be conservative and reputations matter, discretion is absolutely essential. This means refraining from flaunting gifts or luxurious outings on Instagram Stories or TikTok. One careless post or Snap can lead to irreparable damage. It also means respecting boundaries — if your sugar daddy says not to call or text after certain hours, respect that. I’ve seen an overly emotional sugar baby show up at her sugar daddy’s office in KL Sentral just because he didn’t reply fast enough. It didn’t end well for her… or him.
FAQ
1. What should you never do in sugar dating?
Don’t lie, overpromise, or rush intimacy, honesty and boundaries are key.
2. Can sugar babies ask for money directly?
It’s best to talk about lifestyle support respectfully, not as a transaction.
3. What’s a red flag in sugar dating?
Anyone who pressures you to meet too fast, avoids verification, or demands secrecy.
4. Is it okay to date multiple sugar daddies?
Yes, if it’s openly communicated. But hiding it can lead to trust issues or ghosting.
5. Can sugar dating turn into a real relationship?
Sometimes, yes, but forcing it too early or expecting love instantly is a common mistake.
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